Thanks guys. But these seem to be more about what was considered gentlemen behavior. I was more looking for examples during the war of such behavior.
"How do you like this are coming back into the union"
Confederate solider to Pennsylvanian citizen before Gettysburg
"No way sherman will go to hell, he would outflank the devil and get past havens guard"
Southern solider about northern General Sherman
"Angels went to receive his body from his grave but he was not there, they left very disappointed but upon return to haven, found he had outflanked them and was already there".
Northern newspaper about the death of Stonewall Jackson